Happy Birthday, Dad
73 and counting…


Mom had a bunch of old records she was getting rid of, and I figured we could put ‘em to good use.

It’s February 14th, and everyone knows what that means! That’s right! It’s my brother Charles’s birthday! Let’s all wish Chuk a happy one, yeah?
Happy Birthday, bro.
(Music from The National - “Fake Empire”)
To all the ladies: Please sit down before watching this video. I assume no responsibility should you keel over from the overwhelming cuteness contained within.
A little bonus Christmassy goodie: Me singing off-key!
This used to be pretty common at the parents’ house around Christmas. That’s me imitating a dying goose singing, my brother Alan on drums, brother Charles on sax, nephew Daniel sitting on the steps, my sister-in-law Cindy on electric piano, her brother Rick on bass, and Rick’s son Andrew on guitar.
Q: What was born on this day in 1935, still assumes a role as CFO for the southeastern United States’ largest distributor of dry cleaning supplies, and kicks my ass in golf just about every weekend?
A: My dad.
Happy Birthday, Gary E.
Love,
Your Son DAve
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